May 22, 2025
Divorce can be disorienting, no matter how strong or self-aware you are. Especially for women over 50, the end of a marriage can stir up questions about identity, purpose, and next steps. That’s where a divorce coach comes in—not to tell you what to do, but to walk with you as you rebuild.
If you’re thinking about working with a coach, it helps to know what to ask. Here are 10 simple but powerful questions that can guide your first conversation and help you feel confident as you move forward.
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It’s easy to confuse coaching with therapy or legal advice, but they’re not the same. A divorce coach provides emotional support, mindset strategies, and practical tools to help you navigate life during and after divorce.
You might talk about setting boundaries, making decisions with clarity, or building a new vision for your life. Think of a coach as a partner who helps you focus forward.
Learn more from the American Bar Association’s guide to divorce coaches.
Confidence can feel like the first casualty of divorce. You might doubt your choices or struggle to trust yourself again.
Ask how your coach helps you reconnect with your inner strength. Barbara, for example, uses her RECLAIM™ framework to help women over 50 rebuild self-trust, one step at a time.
Every coach is different. Some are structured, with clear plans and weekly goals. Others are intuitive and listen deeply to what you need in the moment.
Neither is better, but one might work better for you. Ask whether the coach uses journaling prompts, reflection exercises, or other tools. Make sure the style aligns with your personality.
Life after 50 looks different. You may be dealing with aging parents, adult children, retirement questions, or new relationships.
A coach who understands these realities can offer more relevant support. Barbara’s practice is specifically designed for women 50 and over, so the tools and conversations are always age-appropriate and empowering.
Divorce can stir up a storm of emotions: sadness, resentment, anxiety, or even guilt.
Ask how your coach helps you manage these emotional moments. Do they offer grounding techniques? Mindfulness strategies? A good coach helps you feel your feelings without being consumed by them.
It’s okay to ask about outcomes. What kinds of changes do clients typically experience?
Barbara’s clients often describe feeling more peaceful, more in control, and more hopeful about their future. Ask if the coach has testimonials or stories that reflect the journey you want to take.
Some women need just a few sessions to feel clear. Others benefit from ongoing support as they transition into their new life.
Ask how the coach structures their sessions—weekly, biweekly, monthly? Do they offer packages or one-off sessions? You’ll want to know what commitment looks like.
Support is one thing. Accountability is another. Ask how the coach helps you stay on track with your goals.
Will they check in between sessions? Offer action steps? Barbara strikes a balance between compassion and forward movement.
Healing from divorce isn’t just about letting go. It’s about stepping into something new.
Ask how your coach helps you imagine what’s next—whether that’s travel, a new career, or just a more peaceful day-to-day life. A great coach helps you dream again.
Ask about the logistics. Do they offer a discovery call? What happens in a first session? Do you need to bring anything?
Barbara offers one-on-one sessions designed to meet you exactly where you are. Curious about coaching? Book your session here.
Asking the right questions can set the tone for a powerful coaching journey. Whether you’re still in the thick of divorce or starting to find your footing, a coach can help you feel seen, supported, and strong again.
You don’t need to figure this all out alone. With the right coach, you can turn this chapter into a powerful comeback.
Ready to take that next step? Reach out to Barbara today.
